life as an INFJ

dominant: introverted intuition (Ni)
auxiliary: extroverted feeling (Fe)
tertiary: introverted thinking (Ti)
inferior: extroverted sensing (Se)


Introverted iNtuition Feeling Judging (INFJ)

Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

Intuition plus Feeling (NF)

NFs tend to approach life and work in a warm and enthusiastic manner, and like to focus on ideas and possibilities, particularly “possibilities for people.” They are often found in careers that require communication skills, a focus on the abstract, and an understanding of others. They tend to be less interested in careers that require an impersonal or technical approach to things and factual data. NFs are often found in the arts, the clergy, counseling and psychology, writing, education, research, and health care.

Introverted Intuition: Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand. (dominant function)

Extraverted Feeling: Seeks harmony with and between people in the outside world. Interpersonal and cultural values are important. (auxiliary function)



Perspectives (aka Introverted Intuition) is a learning function (technically called a “perceiving function”), and works by watching one’s own mind form patterns. After years of use, eventually Perspectives begins to see the ‘pattern of the patterns’ and understands that what is happening inside of themselves cognitively is also happening for other people.

“What gets everyone needs met?” (aka Extraverted Feeling)
INFJs absorb other people’s emotional energy whether they want to or not. If it’s powerful and there – friend or foe, intimate or stranger – your pain is in their heart.

(from Personality Hacker)
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Patterns and Causes of INFJ Wounding

I don’t have existential crises,

I am a walking existential crisis.

On one hand, I want to make a difference in the world.  On the other hand, I want to stay at home and just drink coffee and read books.

“Solitude matters, and for some people,
it’s the air they breathe”

That which does not kill me only makes me weirder and harder to relate to.

When the ones I love are hurting,

I feel their pain as if it were my own.


(from Twitter)


I also identity as an Enneagram 4: